Does moving out help a troubled relationship?
by Kass2000 on Thursday, November 19th, 2009 | 2 Comments
Does moving out help a troubled relationship?
Ok, so here’s what’s up…. my boyfriend used to be very sweet and kind to me and just recently he has started to treat me pretty bad. he stays out till late at night and will hang up when i call him. Also, he just seems to be getting a little distant. When i am around him, it’s really hard to stay mad and leave, but I know that I shouldn’t stay around for more heartbreak later. Does anyone have experience in this? Did your relationship get better when you moved, or did you finally get over the one you loved? P.S. We have been together for 2 years and I both have hard heads lol I think we’re getting tired of each other. Thank you so much for all of the help ahead of time.
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You need to move out. He’s not treating you properly, and it looks like he doesn’t even care if he does. What is going on is that he is taking you for granted — it will only go downhill from here if you don’t establish boundaries of what is acceptable in terms of how you will allow yourself to be treated. I don’t know how old he is, but this sounds like someone in their 20s — which usually means they are not ready for prime time.
Two years is often a threshold in relationships — the stay or go time. You need to go; and if he wants to EARN your trust and respect, then let him start working, because he’s got a lot to make up for. If not, consider what you have learned from this relationship and take that wisdom with you so you can have a better NEW relationship. Give it about six months to appear …
Did you try talking to him? (Easier said than done, I know.) It sounds to me that he is distancing him self from you. If he’s not going to open up and talk to you then I would think that moving out would be the best thing for you. You deserve better than that. I’m living with someone (4yrs) and can relate to how you feel. I am also moving out. Don’t be a fool like me and blame yourself for it not working out. Good luck, hope everything works out for the best.